WHY MOST MARRIED MEN WORK SO HARD YET STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY



There is a sacred conjunction between men and women pronounced as husband and wife but only few know the essence of marriage.
Marriage isn’t a child’s play and that is why it is advised to be practiced by adults. (even the adults act childish)



It’s been common to observe that most married men in Nigeria keep struggling when research has shown that most men get financial boosts after marriage because marriage itself is a blessing from God.

There is a popular saying that “two heads are better than one”

Therefore, married men are to significantly rely on their wife for comfort, advice, inspiration, love and vice versa but many men fail in this aspect. 
The following are the cause of Married men Struggling financially in Nigeria

LACK OF SUPPORT FOR WIFE PROGRESS
Many Nigerian men have killed the blessing of God on their success because they envy their wife’s success.
There is a popular saying that “the hand that holds another man’s hand from eating won’t eat either”

Literally speaking, you can’t expect to succeed when you deny your wife success why because you have created a wall spiritually between yourself and your wife. So she will neither support you.

It is the belief of many Nigerian men that their wives cannot succeed before they do. For instance, a wife trying to travel oversees to work and gain financial freedom would be denied of that by the husband and you hear statements like “you cannot travel before I do”.

Marriage is meant to bind the two different people (man and woman) together and make them one and that makes them share everything they have in common.

In Nigeria today, we have seen many family thrive because they run a family business with the involvement of the husband and wife. WHY? This is because different ideas and resources would be pulled into the business by both of them.  Even if the husband and wife has different career path but there is support to each other, they tend to succeed.

Advice: MARRIED MEN SHOULD SUPPORT THEIR WIFE ONLY THEN CAN YOU SUCCEED.

TOO MUCH SOCIAL FRIENDS
Significant and inspiring friends cannot be shut out of one’s life but there is need for married men to try as much as possible to reduce their engagement with social friends who don’t add any impactful meaning to your life as a person but only to socialize. I am not saying married men shouldn’t socialize, I am saying it should be kept to the barest minimum. You should rather socialize with your wife and children and spend good quality time with them.

Remember, those who socialize with you today because you have a lot of money to squander would be the first to “block your signals” when you don’t have much.
There is a Yoruba saying that “owo epo laraye n bani la, won kin bani la teje” , permit me to speak my dialect.

TOO MUCH FOCUS ON A STREAM OF INCOME
Many homes in Africa and in Nigeria have been dissolved just because the head of the house is not well to do with the responsibilities of providing for the care of the family.

It is no more a secret that one single stream of income is no longer sufficient to live a satisfied life especially for a married man. With the advent of technology, there are various online businesses you can do which will be of significant additional income generator. Also, there are so many other offline businesses you can do that will increase your income generation bountifully.

LACK OF HONESTY AND OPENNESS WITH WIFE
Honesty, they say is the “spinal cord” of every relationship. It is what keeps the relationship alive. Without it, there is no reason to be in such a “dead” relationship.

Therefore, every “man and woman” should value one another and be honest with each other. No matter how difficult a situation may be to be accepted by the second party, honesty and openness pays.

Let your wife have significant input in your life dealings and vice versa.   A wife would go any length to assist an honest husband.

ABSENT OF FEAR OF GOD
The ultimate relationship is that with the ultimate being “GOD”. No one relies on him to take the wheel of life and get driven to point of no return. You need to let your ways and spending be Godly.

Don’t spend on a “side chick” (which you shouldn’t have in the first place) what you can’t afford to spend on your wife and family. There is no blessing in the spending on side chicks. But a penny spent on your wife will significantly improve your financial status in so many ways beyond your imagination.

 Take care of your home. Take care of your wife. Take care of your children.

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